Why a blog about caregiving for my father?

It's a serious question. I mean caregiving is a very personal and world consuming experience. Do I worry about what my father will think if he reads it? Yeah, I do. I don't want him to feel embarrassed or like he's a burden because he's not. My intention is to share my heart about the experience because I have been finding that I'm storing up all of the experiences, good and bad, and it's hurting me. I need a safe place to share and look back. I hope if you are a caregiver that my words help, comfort, or at least help you know you're not crazy. Thanks for being on this journey with me. 

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