Happy Valentine's Day 💘

Happy Valentine's Day to y'all! I hope you have some fun or relaxing things planned for the day. 


I have the electrician here replacing the electrical panel. The power has been off for about almost three hours and it's not as bad as I was expecting it to be. The electrician was supposed to do work yesterday, but he realized he needed additional tools and things so he postponed until this morning. I was actually very thankful that it worked out in my favor because it was extremely humid yesterday, and having my Dad sit in a humid house with no power would be upsetting to him. He did have a lunch date so that was good. I spent the majority of yesterday cleaning out items in the kitchen. I used Google lens to search items and find out their value. If they had some I created a tag the way my father died for his antiques business and the. Picked a price point I hoped would motivate buyers. If things weren't worth much I put them in the donate box. I worked for many hours and was happy to go have an early dinner with my mother at 4:30pm. 

Dinner was fun and I ran into an acquaintance from highschool! So I said hello and we hugged and it was just nice seeing anothet familiar face. My Dad called while we were eating to let me know that he had washed the patio outside and to let him know when I was arriving so he could walk me to the house so I wouldn't slip. I think his thoughtfulness is nice but my inner adult is not having it 😆. I was fine walking into the house and catching him staring into the fridge. I helped him navigate towards getting what he needed and letting him know I was going to bed.

While I was in a Google Meet with my husband after I had changed into PJs, Dad comes walking in asking about shorts. Then he comes back and says something about his medicine and if I have the bottles to fill the case back up. I reassured him and then I'm not sure what the last interruption was about as my kids were also interrupting my husband and I was distracted. 

After our Meet I put on a new anime I started because I have to wait for the new episodes of My Happy Marriage to come out weekly on Mondays. The new one is called Ōoku: The Inner Chambers. I'm not sure how I feel about it yet but I'm only four episodes in. The first episode was over an hour and the following ones are maybe 30min. It's nice having a routine that helps me to relax for bed and that makes me feel less stressed. 

Oh, I forgot to mention that yesterday we went to his favorite place (no sarcasm) the Credit Union and we got things set up to pay for the electrician and to pay off some of his other debts. The lady who took care of us said she was very happy that I was taking care of him because the last time she saw him he wasn't looking very well. That made me feel good. My husband and I have been working hard to make sure he is comfortable, fed (because he will forget to eat), takes his medicine and has things to look forward to doing despite it being winter. I know in the spring he will be so happy to work alongside me and care for the gardens in the park I volunteer at and fix my sorry looking yard. 

Being away from my family for Valentine's Day is a little challenging but I'm so happy my husband loved his gift and apparently I'm receiving a surprise later today 😍 in addition to what he already got me for Valentine's! He's the sweetest. I know my husband and kids are ready for me to be home. Honestly, so am I but we all know that once we get his condo squared away it will mean shorter trips and not as frequently. 

Today I got the Uhaul pod scheduled. I only got one so he doesn't think he can fill two up to take to MD. I need to see the storage unit today to finalize everything but I'll probably just call and see if I can secure it when my Dad returns from his overnight trip. I want him to see the size of the storage unit and hopefully it will encourage him to let go of things. I'll be posting furniture on Facebook to sell. I'm hoping my local FL friends will be interested so we can make this transition easier for him. I also need to call the hotel and shorten the stay because the price is ridiculous as it's season. 

I'm feeling calm and open and looking at everything as the universe/God is working for my good. I know it's difficult for my Dad to grasp that he will not live in his condo again, so I'm understanding and reassuring him that even, God forbid something happened to me, that my husband would care for him. His memory is getting worse every day. I'm not sure if it's because he's here that he isn't remembering what we did they before or if it's just the Alzheimer's advancing.  

Some fun news is a few days ago I found some of my toys! I had a blast playing with them and setting up my Barbie stuff 😆 I actually packed some cowboy toys and Rocky and Bullwinkle toys to take to MD for my Dad when he gets to the later stages so he can play with them. I think I'm going to take mine up for me too so the kids have them if I also end up with Alzheimer's. Check out some of the pictures. It was a fun blast from the past. I'm also sharing some of my sister's things because it's nostalgic. I have been taking over her items when I have time so she can go through them and decide what she wants to do with the books, toys, etc.  

That's all for now! Enjoy your loved ones and tell them you love them often. Time is so precious yet it's the first thing we waste away. 
Love,
Moriah 

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