He did it!

Tuesday morning was a little weird. Dad was up, and I was ready to go, and he asked me what the plans were for the day. I told him he had a flight to catch at 8:30 and he looked down and said, "Do I really need to go on this trip?" I said, "You don't have to, but you've wanted to visit FL for a while now, and C said you could stay with them." 

"Oh, alright, since I've paid for the flights and all. Can you help me go over the flight for today and my return?" So, I spent the next 40 minutes simplifying his notes so he knew what to do when he entered the airport and where he was going to be met at the airport in Florida.  I ensured he took his medicine, placed it in his bag, and had some breakfast even if he didn't get to his coffee. 

I called him closer to departure time to ensure he was good to go at the gate. He was, and he sounded cheerful, so that made me happy. I was not happy when he called me that evening to tell me he thinks he's just going to stay there and get his treatments for cancer done there instead of coming back home. I explained that wasn't the plan, and he got a little belligerent and tried to get the phone off to C. C said to text them.

I checked my texts, and there were some questions, so I answered them. I did not provide the urologist in Naples with information because that wasn't happening. That urologist never kept us up to date on information and just let my dad stop his treatments without reaching out.. I gave C all the information about behavior with a UTI, what to do, and about his recovery instructions that he wasn't following, and I thanked her for having him for the week. 

I don't understand what the motive is or what they would get out of my father basically moving back in when they told me last year he couldn't stay any longer and to get him back in the house, which I did. My therapist even asked me that today in our session. She said I look radiant and less stressed since he's been in FL. Funny enough today is the only day I have had the house to myself. There is always something happening with the kids. Anyway, I said to let me know what they see when I talk to them next week after he returns. We talked about the possibility of him staying, but I don't see what the point is. I have everything sorted and mapped out here. I can give a crash course, but I don't think they know what they will be signing up for. My father is starting to go into different decades, and I mentioned that to C. He should call me if it becomes difficult when he is in that state. 

Yesterday, he called me multiple times. I reminded him he was on vacation and that we'd discuss the storage units and finances when he returned. Everything is under control and to enjoy his week there. He seemed excited he gets to stay until next Tuesday and no arguments were had. He did wake me up though when I went to bed and he realized what time it was. Hopefully, today is another good report, and we can keep him looking forward to returning. 

Other than that I'm going to enjoy my book in my hammock before the kids return and the chaos begins 😊
 

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