Star Trek and the bonds that tie

This morning was ok! He was a little out of time but not bad. I was downstairs and started coffee before he came up for the day. I am so thankful for my BFF Becky who did DDP Yoga with me this morning despite our technical difficulties and then showered and woke up all the children. Then I made sure he ate and took his medicine. 

The middle morning and afternoon was cool.  I made my lunch before 11am and then counseled my youngest on setting boundaries and enforcing them. I made pizza for everyone but me because I had a salad. My dad was not really interested in Captain Marvel but watched most of it. We then started to watch a historical movie called Darkest Hour and then he let me pick a show. I decided on the Picard series because my father introduced me to Star Trek. My captain will always be Picard and he loved The Next Generation. We have been enjoying each others company while watching the first series (we will probably be rewatching the 3rd episode again) but it has been wonderful bonding over our love of Star Trek. 

School will be open for probably so it will be a very busy day for me. I'm hoping my dad can cope without me for a little bit or a long while but like everything with Alzheimer's, it's an in the moment decision. 

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